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violenceviolins:

Where does evil come from? 
It comes

from man
always from man
only from man

Tadeusz Rozewicz (trans. Czesław Miłosz) 

(Source: fadensonnen)

vauxhallandi:

demon-anti:

vauxhallandi:

it’s 2016, callout culture has gone on for more than long enough now, let it die, it’s time

callout for this post wtf is “callout culture”

callout culture is falling out with someone and digging through their archive to compile a list of things they said five years ago to turn total strangers against them

callout culture is reblogging a callout post for a total stranger made by a total stranger out of a misplaced sense of moral righteousness

callout culture is overusing the word ‘problematic’ to the point where saying something out of ignorance thirty years ago is placed on the same level as assaulting children

callout culture is expecting people to disclose deeply personal information pertaining to their mental health, experience of abuse and other incredibly sensitive subjects before engaging in a discussion with total strangers

callout culture is bombarding people with accusatory messages as soon as a celebrity or tv show they like fucks up, as if it was their fault or they can do anything about it and as if it’s possible for anyone or anything to be perfect enough to be deemed worthy of fandom by those standards

callout culture is refusing to give people room to fuck up and then grow and learn and to acknowledge that people and media mean a lot to people for an enormous variety of reasons and expecting people to be able to (and to want to) just cut all emotional ties they have with something or someone when they fuck up is unreasonable and unrealistic

callout culture is claiming to stand for social justice, but driving young teenagers to the point of suicide because maintaining a sense of ideological purity is seen as preferable to remembering that we all used to be ignorant on various issues and educating those who just didn’t know any better

notcisjustwoman:

closet-keys:

sjwgordonfreeman:

closet-keys:

brunettebitxh:

notcisjustwoman:

coldhearted-icequeen:

Freud literally said Karen Horney is “mean and malicious” because shed dared to question his obsession with biology and non-existent psychological sex differences. She emphasized culture and believed masochism is not inherent to women, but an UNHEALTHY learned behavior as a result of culture. Dudes hated her and Freud also literally said she was the way she was because she refused to “Accept her own penis envy”. OMFG ALL THESE OLD WHITE DUDES. FUCK THEM

Freud was one of the worst things that ever happened to women. I truly believe he set female liberation back hundreds of years.

The most frustrating part is that he didn’t start off as what he eventually became. His early work zeroed in on sexual abuse of girls and women by men, specifically their fathers, as his female patients recounted the abuse and rapes they faced as children.

He started working on theories to explain how this sexual abuse caused all kinds of psychological problems for women, and his writing from this time often reveals sympathy for his patients.

It wasn’t long, however, before the difference in who is the PATIENT and who is the CLIENT came into play and completely destroyed the actual work that Freud was doing. See, his patients weren’t the ones paying the bills. Their wealthy fathers and husbands were. So in the end, it wasn’t about helping his patients… It became all about pleasing his clients. The clients who actually paid the bill.

And let me tell you… Rich dudes do NOT like being told that they are rapists and child abusers. They do NOT like being told that their father-in-law raped their wife as a child. They do NOT like hearing ANYTHING about the evils that men perpetrate, and they ESPECIALLY do not like to hear about the consequences of a culture that prioritizes the desires of adult male rapists over the needs of helpless female children.

Freud renounced all this work, all his patient cases where he had previously believed that a woman had been raped as a child, and took a different tact. A tact more pleasing to the average wealthy white man.

He decided that little girls were so jealous of their fathers penis that they fantasized about getting raped.

And despite the fact that any sane and literate person could easily know just these few facts about Freud and write him off as a sociopathic abuser who should have disappeared into the ether of time…

You’re still learning about him today.

They don’t tell you this in psychology but I mean it was taught by old white men so…

This is true. Another part of it besides just the monetary aspect, though, was that there was a feminist movement on the fringes starting up at the time and by publishing work about women’s CSA he would be aligning himself with it and therefore losing support, respect, funding, prestige from his male peers and from the psychological community at large. He literally made that gross victim blaming shit up to keep his own reputation with these fucks and to make sure he still got publication and fame. 

He had started the research looking into “hysteria” which at the time was really usually referring to women’s symptoms of PTSD. By coming up with fake theory about little girls fantasizing about incest he not only fucked over generations of women, the feminist movement that was arising, and the entire psychology field for years to come, but he also completely swept away any progress made in understanding trauma and so we didn’t have any clue why men coming back from war had “hysteria” like women during WWI. 

And our research on PTSD and trauma is still lacking to this day, especially because of the stigma that maybe traumatized people deserved it or wanted it or imagined it. People don’t want to believe it’s real. Perpetrators of traumatic violence want everyone to forget about it, not acknowledge it, or trivialize it. 

And they have Freud’s cultural legacy to help them. 

@closet-keys your addition is good, but jsyk the op and second commenter are twefs

Ugh, damn. Thank you for telling me. I’ll put my text in a separate post so people can reblog it without having to reblog the whole chain.

So you want to piggy back on our writing, but not give us any credit. Typical bullshit.

(Source: c0ldhearted-icequeen)

nursary:

can you die from lack of affection